Things I've Learned

It's been almost three months since Scout left, and I've formed a few mantras in that time:

1. After a mini-crisis, a solution will come. It just will. No matter how much you fret about it, it will either end in disaster or resolution. And it almost never ends in disaster. Either way, getting through it (particularly if an emotional breakdown is involved) will make you fierce. And strong. And you'll start to see the world differently the next time all the light bulbs in the kitchen burn out at the same time when you have none to replace them with. Doing dishes in the dark will be humorous, not tragic.

2. Yes, you will hear others whining about their husband being gone for ten days. Resist the urge to roll your eyes and judge. Someone always has it better than you; be happy for them, not bitter. But someone always has it worse, so keep your mouth shut and don't complain. Your husband is alive. Your child is healthy. Your bills are paid. You have a good haircut.

3. Even when you have "enough" money, there will never really be enough. Various financial needs will arise all at the same time. That's why you have savings. Don't get stressed out about transferring the money to checking when your dog needs an emergency spay. It is what it is.