Wednesday, January 16, 2008

Anat What?

Someone tell me I'm not the only one that hasn't ever heard the term Anat Baniel Method. What the hell? Even after reading the website, I can't really tell you it's purpose. Just when I thought I was getting smarter...

In other news, we passed our home study today. All of the major stuff is over. Now we just have to wait on some paperwork from Tucker's birth mother and anticipate his birthday.

I asked the social worker what the chances would be, percentage-wise, that our birth mother would change her mind. She asked, "Are you sure you want to know?" Sigh. Well, yeah. Now I really want to know. She told us that the last nationwide study showed that there was a 70% chance she would change her mind (this was five minutes before I was expected to write a $1,500 check, by the way). She did say, however, that it was about ten years ago, before open adoption and communication between birth parents and adoptive parents was encouraged (or even allowed). Agencies took a lot more control than they do now, so birth mothers felt like it was all or nothing, and buckled under the pressure of knowing that they may never even see a picture of their child. Sigh.

Here's to the hope we have in our 30% chance.

6 comments:

Sarah said...

I have no idea what this Anat Baniel business is, and I still don't get it even after looking at the website. And I thought I was a decently smart person...

And think of it this way: you have a 20% chance of having a miscarriage...so calculate in the idea that it's not 100% you get to keep your own baby. Maybe that helps balance the odds a little.

I have a good feeling about all this. And if not, well, we'll deal with that when we get there. For now, stay focused on your happiness.

debey said...

I feel good about the adoption, too. Remember, a lot depends on the relationship you have built with the birth mom. I'm the woman who picked up the grandbaby, and told Sister whats-he-name at catholic social services to STICK IT..then proceeded to find parents via private adoption..........we've had this conversation before, remember?and burned the steaks, in the process!

Anonymous said...

Just think good thoughts and move forward.

Dad

ABW said...

No idea on the website. Weird.

As far as adoption, keep thinking positively!

Guard Wife said...

Found you via Sarah & I can't stop thinking positively for you.

Only $19.95 said...

Keep your eye on the ball! There's so much positive energy heading your way!